One of the most common questions couples ask when planning their wedding day timeline is: “Should we do a first look?” As a wedding photographer, I’ve seen both sides—emotional first looks before the ceremony and traditional aisle reveals—and the truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. It all comes down to what feels right for you as a couple. This editorial at Omni Scottsdale Resort & Spa at Montelucia is a beautiful example of how a wedding day can flow with a first look—giving you more time to be present, soak it all in, and create space for intentional, relaxed photos throughout the day.
What is a First Look?
Let’s break it down honestly so you can decide what fits your vision best.
A first look is a private moment before the ceremony where you and your partner see each other for the first time. It’s usually set in a quiet, scenic spot and beautifully documented, giving you a chance to connect before the day unfolds.
Why You Should Consider a First Look
1. Calm the Nerves
Wedding days can feel overwhelming. A first look creates a quiet pause where you can ground yourselves together. I’ve seen couples go from anxious to completely at ease after this moment.
2. More Time Together
Let’s be real—your wedding day flies by. A first look allows you to spend more intentional time together instead of waiting until the ceremony is over.
3. A Smoother Timeline
From a photography standpoint, first looks open up your timeline significantly. You can complete most portraits beforehand, meaning:
- Less rushing after the ceremony
- More time with your guests
- A more relaxed, enjoyable cocktail hour
4. Genuine, Intimate Reactions
While aisle reactions are beautiful, they’re often quick and seen by everyone. A first look gives you space to fully react, talk, laugh, cry—without an audience.
5. The Perfect Moment for Private Vows
A first look also creates the ideal setting to share private vows. You can read your personal words to each other in a quiet, emotional space—without the pressure of guests listening in. It becomes an incredibly meaningful experience, and it allows you to be fully present with each other while still capturing those raw, authentic moments on camera.
Why You Might Skip the First Look
1. You Love Tradition
There’s something undeniably powerful about seeing each other for the first time as you walk down the aisle. If that moment has always been part of your vision, it’s okay to hold onto it.
2. You Want That Big Emotional Build-Up
The anticipation leading up to the ceremony can make that aisle moment incredibly emotional—for both of you and your guests.
A Beautiful Alternative: Private Vows
If you’re torn, private vows might be the perfect middle ground—and they don’t have to replace a first look.
You can choose to:
- Share private vows during your first look for a deeply intimate, uninterrupted experience
- Or save them for another quiet moment before or after the ceremony
This option allows you to:
- Keep the traditional aisle reveal (if you skip the first look)
- Still share an intimate, emotional moment together
- Express personal vows without the pressure of a crowd
Private vows often become one of the most meaningful parts of the entire day—quiet, intentional, and deeply personal.
A Photographer’s Honest Take
If your priority is:
- A relaxed timeline
- More photos together
- Less stress
→ A first look is incredibly helpful (especially if you want to include private vows in that moment).
If your priority is:
- Tradition
- A dramatic ceremony moment
- Walking down the aisle for the first time
→ Skip the first look and consider incorporating private vows at another point in the day.
There’s no wrong choice—only what aligns best with your story.
Vendor Team
This beautiful editorial came together with an amazing creative team:
Host: @kajedphotoandfilm
Planning & Design: @bashboulevard
Venue: @omnimontelucia
Content Creator: @got.hitched
Makeup Artist: @daniela.artistry
Hair Artist: @styledbymeganstueven
Florist: @thewildflowersaz
Ceremony Real Touch Florals: @petal.kissed.rentals
Rentals: @mnd.eventrentals
Napkins & Runners: @bbjlatavola
Stationery + Day-of Paper: @fossilweddinginvitations
Cake: @cakezbykenz
Bridal Boutique: @truesociety_phoenix
Groom’s Attire: @stateandliberty
Bride & Groom: @sydneywardd & @conjoman
Final Thoughts
Your wedding day should feel like you. Whether that means a private first look, sharing vows together in that moment, a traditional aisle reveal, or a quiet exchange of words later in the day—what matters most is choosing the experience that feels authentic to your relationship.
If you’re still unsure, talk through your vision with your photographer. We’re here not just to capture your day—but to help you experience it fully. ✨
Planning your own celebration? If you’re looking for a Phoenix Wedding Photographer, explore more of our recent weddings and love stories. You can also view our Weddings portfolio for inspiration or contact us to inquire about your date.
